Dear Bonnie - I'm not surprised by your reaction to the very stressful time you just went through. If you weren't such a strong person it could be a lot worse. Enjoy your rest and do some things you really enjoy doing, have fun. This too will pass. Life goes on.
The fact that Shirlee was only nine years older than you shouldn't bother you. However, none of us have a guarantee on tomorrow and we should all be ready for when the Lord calls us home.
Dale is a typical man. They don't usually get all stressed out like we do. You haven't written recently how his mouth is doing and if he is happy with his new teeth.