Dear Bonnie - My heart goes out to all of you at this difficult time. How gracious was God to not allow the suffering and pain to go on any longer. It makes me wonder how long any of you would have been able to handle the situation the way it was without breaking down. I know Shirlee would not have want to live any longer under the circumstances.
It was good to hear she had donated her body. My husband and I both did that. My husband went to Temple Hospital for students to study. Twice a year they hold a service to honor the donors and my husband's was wonderful. Many doctors, nurses, and students participated, telling what a benefit it was to their learning experience. If they have a service at Stanford you should all go, it will bless your heart. In addition, what a money saver.
I know it will take awhile for things to get back to normal but take one day at a time and those awful memories will fade. You are all in my prayers everyday.